Why I No Longer Settle for Words Without Fruit
Because love without action is just emotional debt with no return.
For too long, I accepted words at face value.
Apologies without change.
Promises without progress.
Intentions without action.
And every time, I told myself, “They’re trying.”
But trying without fruit is just a delay with good branding.
I used to let people stay close because I believed so much that they could be exactly what—or who—I thought they could be.
Not because they were showing it.
Not because their actions aligned.
But because I was committed to their potential, not their patterns.
Then I realized:
Fruit doesn’t lie.
You can say anything with your mouth, but your life will always tell the truth.
That’s not cynicism—it’s discernment.
Even Jesus made it clear—you’ll know people by what their lives produce. Not by their charm. Not by their charisma. But by the consistent fruit of their behavior.
Discernment Doesn’t Make You Cold—It Keeps You Covered
There came a point when I had to stop defending confusion.
Stop asking God to bless relationships He was already exposing.
Because peace and confusion don’t coexist.
And the God I serve does not author chaos or indecision.
Love Doesn’t Just Sound Good—It Moves Different
God’s love doesn’t just whisper sweet nothings. It acts. It protects. It sacrifices.
So why was I making room for people who refused to take even one step toward change?
The truth is—real love has fruit.
Not perfection, but evidence.
Not promises, but patterns.
If someone says they love you, but the fruit of their presence is anxiety, instability, or silence when you need support…
That’s not love.
That’s emotional debt with no return on your investment.
Peace Is Now the Standard
I no longer trade peace for potential.
I no longer make excuses for people whose words and actions live on opposite sides of the street.
This isn’t bitterness. It’s boundaries.
It means I can still love you, still pray for you, and still protect my peace.
Because I don’t just want good vibes—I want good fruit.
For the Woman Still Hoping
If you’re holding on because of how it used to be…
If you’re exhausted from carrying the weight of who they could become…
Take a breath.
And ask yourself:
Is this bearing good fruit in my life?
That one question changed everything for me.
Because no matter how deep your history is, if it’s not producing peace, safety, love, or growth—then it’s time to reconsider the harvest.
God is not calling you to carry potential.
He’s calling you to walk in wisdom.
And wisdom checks the fruit—without apology.
With love + fruit-checking peace,
Tavon 💄